From Survival to Safety:
My Story of Adoption and Intentional Growth
By AnnMarie Santamarina
One woman’s journey from living in survival mode for decades — to embracing healing, growth and transformation.
Through intentional & inspired action, she set out on an open-minded path to discover new data about herself and opportunities for life upgrades.
Even though your story is different from mine, this book is for you if you’re:
If you’ve grappled with the impact of family dynamics — and how they deeply influence the beliefs we’ve created about ourselves — come find solace, relatability + connection in these pages with people who understand.
Because we can rewrite our personal stories with the right support and…
After all, safety is a human right.
Period.
But even though most of us can agree that we deserve to feel calm, confident, and grounded, so few people do. Instead, we spend our lives in “Safe Mode”, doing everything we can to avoid shutting down.
I’m AnnMarie Santamarina, and I was no different.
At age 25, I discovered that I was adopted—and suddenly, this underlying feeling of abandonment and unworthiness I’d carried with me made much more sense to me than ever before.
After all, there had to be some reason why I felt that when people got to know the real me, they’d leave.
This old story slowed me down, an outdated operating system, longing for a version upgrade.
After learning the truth, I made one attempt to locate my birth family at age 30...
And found only dead ends.
I quickly realized that acceptance and belonging doesn’t automatically come with the search for biological families.
Instead, trying to uncover those unknown parts of my story led to even more confusion, disconnect, and eventual repeated rejection and betrayal. There was no magic fix here.
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Avoidance became the clunky programming subconsciously running my systems.
I piled layers of busy-ness, alcohol, and food on top of the shame I carried, attempting to stack up protection against further rejection.
For 50+ years, I told myself daily that there was no where I truly belonged.
It was this subconscious code in my heart and mind, written by other people who no longer had power over my life.
So I began rewriting the programming that was running and defining my life.
Through intentional mindfulness practices, deep introspection, and doing the tangled inner work, something incredible started to happen.
I began to trust myself and my instincts more.
Day by day, and moment by moment, stories from both of my families and others I had given my power away to started to soften and the volume of other voices lowered, as my voice began rising and truly becoming my own.
Finally, I saw this gleaming, small opportunity to heal my wounds — all without needing permission or acceptance from anyone but myself.
Slowly and surely - even when I was scared - I stepped into an entirely new way of being.
One of safety, being seen, feeling acknowledged, and free. That same safety is waiting for you, in the pages of this book.
See inside Survival to Safety and start stepping into your best life.
“The biggest lesson I’ve learned is abandoning myself is far worse than being abandoned by anyone else.”
“The more in tune you are with who you are taking direction from, the more you can take back your power, where you may have given it away.”
You get to be content, happy,
and relaxed in this life.
Discover what it means to feel truly safe, worthy, and confident as we revisit our stories + the old software running our lives.